Here are a few things I love: pizza, Mario Kart, my wife, Jesus.

If you’ve been at church for a while, you’ve probably heard several well-intentioned, but misaligned, phrases that have complicated your ability to communicate, and even personally comprehend, love.

Here are a few of those phrases: “You can’t ‘love’ pizza because that’s not ‘true’ love.” “You have to love God ‘above’ everything and everyone else.” “Love is not an emotion, it’s a commitment.” “Seriously, stop saying you love pizza.”

Here is my response to those phrases: A) It’s not possible to quantify, categorize, or prioritize love. B) Yes, it is possible to FEEL love. C) What is so wrong about pizza?

I humbly submit that love is an experience. It is something you can feel and possibly touch (or, in the case of pizza, taste). And, as love grows (or whatever it does), you perpetuate it by making a commitment.

I would say that talking about your (my) love for pizza is way to help students understand love. Do I love pizza the same way that I love God or my wife? Absolutely not. But there are some similarities and it’s a little less complicated.

Therefore, in teaching about love, I can start my talking about my pure, simple, emotional love for pizza as a gateway into a conversation and teaching about a more profound and impactful love.

What do you think? How do you teach about love? What are some well-intentioned, but misaligned, phrases about love that you’ve heard? What’s your favorite kind of pizza?

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